Masterful Hand Answers your questions #1

Dear Masterful hand,

I currently have a situation where I am out of town a lot, and while my slave and I are experience this difficult part of my job I am having a hard time enforcing punishments when I am away. When I go away I leave her a list of chores as well as punishments if she does not do the chores and while she does most of them she sometimes falter on her chores and then I must punish her, she must also email me each morning to affirm she has completed the previous days chores as I can sometimes be gone 2 or 3 weeks. Also when I am away we spend hundreds a month speaking on the phone, especially time consuming is when she performs punishments so I may hear here, while this is more of a financial then BDSM question what do you suggest I do for that.

Yours truly,

XXXXX@XXXXX.XXX


Hello,

First I shall address your first mistake of sorts, while when leaving town it is a wise choice to assign or leave her task she is to perform while you are away, I would advise not also telling of punishments that will go along if she does not complete the task. The reason being she shall do the task with the punishments she does not like or wishes not to have to perform yet leave the task which have minimal punishments and would rather be able to perform. Instead leave her to sheet of her task and allow her punishments to be randomized, and also it is always best to think of different punishments so she does not get accustomed to knowing exactly what will happen if she refuses or simply does not complete a task given.

Though if she continuously breaks rules, and not follow orders I would suggest more training, testing her limits, pushing them yet not breaking them shall make her more obedient, she needs to know you are dominate enough for her to submit to, she needs to feel your presence, your power she may be uncertain and needs to feel your power over her in order for her to submit fully to you, this of course takes trust.

While emailing you each morning to simply say if she did a task or not, I would also advise having her keep a slave journal, where she details each thing she did, her feelings through out the day, her needs, and wants, this would of course give you a better psyche into her mind and give you more powerful tools then any whip, lash, cropper, gives you the tool to understand her mind, a sub must submit mentally before she could ever be of any use to her Master or Dom.

As far as your last part of money, I have a rather simple solution, as you said she emails you each morning so it is quite clear you have a computer or laptop, as well as she, rather then spending hundreds of dollars per month on phone calls when ever you must go away, might I suggest investing in a webcam and a microphone, both of them will cost you a combined no more then a $100.00 for good quality, with this instead of wasting money on simple phone calls you can get online, speak through the microphones and better yet see each other through the webcam, most hotels in the US have a set price for net access but am sure it will not cost you hundreds a month and thus shall save you funds as what is what your questioned was asking.

If you have any follow ups do message me again

Masterful Hand


Hello Sir,

My name is XXXXX and my boyfriend names is XXX, I saw your post about searching for a new slave, I have filled out the paper but wanted to ask you a few questions before I forward it to you, my current boyfriend and I are a sub-sub couple, while we have been in the service of a Mistress for 3 years, she has ordered us to get online and find one Master or Mistress to give us task, in which we shall perform and provide photographic proof. I saw your post and was wondering would you be willing to take us both under as strictly as your cyber slaves, we understand you are straight though I figured it couldn’t hurt to ask.



Hello young one,

While I have trained male-female sub couples before in a real life capacity the male more or less served as the “assistant” sub where if she needed to be bound he would do that, on the other hand when being trained my self, one of the Masters was in fact a Homosexual Master in which I had to train on his subs and am use to tying them up though it is not something I personally prefer, If you and your boyfriend wish for me to consider you then both of you feel out the sub application in the previous blog posting and I shall review them thoroughly.

Though I personally am looking for a woman of no older then 30, I shall give thought to any and all apps I get from a potential net slave. If your Mistress wishes to contact me, for her to affirm that you two belong to her and she has given you two permission to do so, do contact me for any further information

Masterful Hand




Hello Sir,

This girl am very new to this lifestyle, but since this girl was a little girl this girl knew that this girl was a submissive, this girl would always be the girl to want to get drinks for the men in the home, or in my early teen years, would sit around when my parents hosted parties this girl would rush to fill up the glasses of the men whose glasses were nearly empty. As of eleven year ago this girl met Sir in a bar, this girl was there with a few friends and He literally senses my submissive nature, He warranted me with His hand to come over to him and in mid point of conversation with my friend this girl got up and went to Him, not even knowing who he was. W/we spoke for several minutes before He asked this girl for her phone number. This girl waited for a few days before Sir called me and asked me to meet him in a public place, W/we dined and spoke of this girl and what would be expected of her in Sir’s home, this girl then within two weeks time had already given notice at her place and moved in to Sir’s home, recently Sir and I have been speaking of drawing up a slave contract, what this girl wants to ask you so she does not look stupid in front of her soon to be Master is a slave contract the same as a collaring ceremony?

Thank you Sir in advance

Sub XXXXX


Good day sub XXXXX,

To answer your question is no, a Master/slave contract and a collaring ceremony are not one in the same, many Masters merely draw up contracts and have no collaring “ceremony” yet from that day on their slave or sub shall wear their collar. Some Masters on the other hand do have both Master/slave contracts as well as a collaring ceremony.

To explain the difference a Master/slave contract (while some Masters and slaves have verbal contracts I would advise those new to lifestyle to get hard copy contracts drawn up) is a well thought out detailed contract of what will be expected of the potential slave/sub, her limits, her kinks, what she is expected to do and maintain, also has if she is allowed time “out of service” for personal things, and most importantly a time period. Many slave and Masters for their first contract give a time period of a few months, sort of a trial period, after this initial evaluation or time period they take out yearly or bi-yearly contracts, and most rarely indefinite ones.

A collaring ceremony is how it sounds, it is a small get together of friends, who are in the lifestyle, and both slave and Master recite “promises” to each other, basically speaking of their commitment to each other, think of them as vows, after these words are recited the Master places his collar on his slave/sub, to reaffirm her belonging to him and his commitment to her as well.

I think this is what you were asking, if you need any more information do write back

Masterful Hand


Hello Good Sir,

I have read your blogger posting, and have found them very well written, though I am a male slave my Mistress does allow me a hour online a day and I always check your post searching for new updates, but have not seen any in a few days, was wondering if you were still writing them or…did something happen? Also wanting to know outside of BDSM what do you enjoy doing in life.

Thanks a lot

XXXXXX

XXXXXXXXXX@XXXXX.XXX



Hello there,

Yes I do still write the blogs, I just have been compiling questions that I receive to post in my latest blog, such as I plan to put your in it, thank you for the compliment on my writing, I do try to write out things in a clear nature, hoping the readers would understand it.

To answer your question of what I enjoy doing outside of the BDSM lifestyle, I enjoy many things, reading and writing most of all. But also enjoy building things with my hands, minor webpage designing and coding, photography is a major passion of mines, listening to music, watching horror movies as well as crime shows.

Outside of those in the lifestyle, I am very much a loner so I occupy my time doing things by myself always thinking of kinks to train subs or slaves in to further their knowledge of the lifestyle, and I enjoy answering peoples questions or helping those new to the lifestyle realize what they want or expect to gain from the lifestyle

Masterful Hand


Good day Sir,

i was just wondering what is your view on “Master/slave” styles of writing, such as capitalization of anything referring to the Dominate personality, I am quite new to the lifestyle and when I go into chat rooms and such I get hounded about not “addressing” them properly or they feel disrespected if I place master with a lower case m, as if I am degrading or disrespecting the.

Thanks in advance

XXXX

XXXXXXX@XXX.XXX



Thanks for your email,

While I personally do not pay much attention to such things when I am writing for just myself, I do sometimes (not always) write in the Master slave style of writing, to help you out it is rather simple when speaking of a Master or Mistress in the second person simply refer to them as His/Hers/Him/She and things of that such, when referring to them personally you may say Master, Mistress, Sir, Ma’am to simply show them the respect of their title, though I personally do not get angry when I am in BDSM chat rooms and see subs lower case M’s and such, I mean I have much more to worry about, and value to many things in the lifestyle to pay SO much attention to such a trivial thing, while my slaves, and those I train have learned to write like this as a second nature, it does take time.

It is not something people just “know” when entering the lifestyle, especially if they are new to it, another way of speaking like that is when speaking of you and your Master or Mistress, you would say “W/we” “U/us” “O/our” and things of that nature, I have even seen people go “T/together” so basically any word that signifies you both the first letter should be capitalized then /then spelled with the lowercase and rest of the word.

But as I have said while I get and understanding the writing, and why some feel it is so important, I am more likely to care about the woman herself, her willingness to learn, her experience, her submissive nature, what kinks she’s into versus only paying attention to if she capitalizes a letter or not. But as I have said, that is merely me, some Masters and Mistresses (as I have seen) will jump on people who do not use what they see as “proper terms” not taking or refusing to understand the person may be new to the lifestyle.

I do hope that answered your questions

Masterful Hand

Any more questions do email me at the following email

Masterfulhand@gmail.com

Note: I am still looking for a net based sub or slave, if interested check my previous post here, I do hope to get good request.

http://masterfulhand.blogspot.com/2009/04/looking-for-new-slaveinterested.html

A New Use for my blogger

Since launching my blog and especially the first post several of you have written me asking me questions, while usually slaves and subs asking me BDSM lifestyle questions I was quite surprised to get a few from Masters and Mistresses asking some BDSM related, and a few non BDSM related questions.

So from now on I shall be posting questions and answers here, but I shall be exing out your names and email addresses from the post so ask me what ever you wish and I shall answer you back personally to your email address, as well as (if I think the question is a good one) post both your question and my answer on this blogger site under a new post.

I will not be posting a new post per question. Each post will have a few questions in which I have received so if I do not receive enough I shall just add them to a previous post. Note i can be a bit long winded so each post will not contain to many questions but shall contain a few per post. Do enjoy them

While I am still in search for a net based submissive, I have gotten a few emails about the slave mentioned in the first post.

Not regretfully I have let her go from her servitude. While she showed promise in the “discussion” phase of her servitude, she knew what would be expected of her, she told me of her soft limits, hard limits, kinks, even living situation and schedule so I knew where she could and could not perform task in her home. Though there was something she could not do, she was given quite a simple task, to write a journal (sometimes known as slave journal or diary) she failed to do this as previously mentioned and was disciplined by lashing her body 100 times.

Other then her previously mentioned short-comings such as no digital camera to prove her task as well as continuous non-answering of emails assigning her new task… then being very apologetic afterwards with no changing ending result, for these reasons, though a very short time I decided to release her from servitude, if you are a REAL submissive, looking for a REAL Master look at the previous post, you do not have to be experienced yet must be willing to perform any task given outside of your kinks.

I wish to thank you all for reading my post and sending me questions, and continue to do so.

Masterful Hand
masterfulhand@gmail.com

Looking for a new slave....Interested?

Important: I just got an email from some one, note if you reply DO NOT speak in "text talk" spell your words out properly, text talk written emails will simply be deleted.

Hello there my readers, since the first post I have gotten a few emails from people wondering would I ever be looking for a new slave/sub to train online, as the title suggest, I am currently looking for a new sub/slave, willing to be strictly online, though the slave and I from the current post are doing well her time is quite limited as well as she has several short comings, one I shall tell you of her issues and then tell you what I expect from any potential slave/sub.

One she is going through a few family problems so currently only gets on line a hour or so a day, and sometimes doesn’t get on for days, she also has no webcam so the task she is assigned can not be proven which is a very bother some thing for me, while any one can say they are doing it over the web, digital cams are and should be a must. Another thing which is a major no-no she went away for three days without any word and did not complete the task she was given, for this she was punished, told to take a cat-o-nine-tails and whip her bottom 100 times.

Now to get to the part a few of you have messaged me and asked me, new subs/slaves willing to be trained online, I shall tell you a bit about me then tell what is expected of any potential slave who contacts me, and do hope I get good replies.

I am a 21 year old Master, I have been raised in the BDSM lifestyle, and have over ten years experience, starting from a young age of being trained by several Masters and Mistresses and have enjoyed my time in the lifestyle, I enjoy many aspects of the lifestyle and have very few limits which include Scat, vomit, and nothing with minors (younger then 17).

Other then the limits previously mentioned my kinks are extensive, a must for all potential subs or slaves is must enjoy bondage, must have a digital camera, must be willing to use marker to write on body.

While you will be told to do many different kinks, I shall always respect your limits, though they may be tested but never surpassed.

About me I am a 21 year old male, have been raised in the lifestyle and have trained many real life and net subs, I have many kinks that I enjoy, other then the ones previously mentioned, I have been to many munches though do not belong to any group, for a young Master such as I, I do not personally feel into the local groups.

Here is a list of things any potential sub must:
I. Open to all ages (though prefer not over 30)
II. Must have Digital Camera
III. Must be able to get online to be able to check your email often
IV. While your living situation is of no concern you must have your own room, or enough time in a day to yourself where you can do task and take photos
V. Must be comfortable with her body regardless the size! (this is most important, if you have low self esteem yet willing or trying to be comfortable do apply I will help you with that)
VI. As an addition to previous one, understand upon or rather before making my final decision each potential slave will be told to send me requested photos, which will test how comfortable she is with her body.
VII. She must be willing to write a journal on here, marking her progress and things that she is told to do
VIII. Once i take you as my net slave, you may not take orders from other Masters and Mistesses unless i approve of them.


Photograph Posting:
While as mentioned previous a digital camera is a must for any interested in being taught the BDSM lifestyle as well as being my personal net based slave or sub.

While I personally would like to post my slaves photographs when speaking of her task or even have her and I post them in our respective blogs so people may see what she was told to do, below on the small questionnaire you will see the last line says “photo posting style” on that line you may put one of the following three things.

While taking photos, proving you have done your task is not optional, the posting of the photographs are completely up to you, so one that line put one of the following

Full Disclosure: What this mean is that you give permission for any photos/videos that you take may be posted in blogs and other sites where I may write to discuss the slave, the photographs/videos posted shall or may show your face, show body, and any thing I wish to post.

Limited Disclosure: Similar to the previous one, only major difference is with limited disclosure your face shall never be shown, yet your body shall be the only thing I shall post, this tends to be the most chosen for net based subs, so it is acceptable to me. (in photos with your face it shall be blotted out entirely as to not show it)

No Disclosure: While this is unlike the previous to simply says, you shall take the photos/videos of your task, send them to me, yet would prefer no part of the photos be posted on the blogger site, this of course includes face and body photos, and

APPLICATION FOR SERVICE TO MASTER
That is the mere basics, note you will be slave/sub, it is your duty to do what I say as long as I respect your limits, so any one interested do answer the following questions and email them to:
masterfulhand@gmail.com

First name:
Ethnicity:
Age:
Weight & Height:
Bust size:
Smoke / Drink::
Eye & Hair Color:
Shoe Size:
Which are you Submissive / Slave:
Email Address:
Photograph Posting Style: (See above)

Random Questions:
Three pet names you like to be called.
Three fantasies you have:
Three things you hate the most:

Anser the following questions for Master
Do you have a webcam/digital camera:

Are you willing to take pics with it to prove you did what I ordered you too:

What Toys, play clothing and bondage items you own:

Living situation (alone / with others but with own room/no privacy):

Have you served before?
Why did that end?

Tell me why should I take you in:

What are your limits (be as specific as possible):

If, perhaps, Master ever thought I should deserve a reward or punishment, my
favorite reward is...... and worst punishment(s) are:


In closing when you send this questionnaire, do send 2-3 photos of yourself, can be in plain clothes, seductive clothing, does not matter, i merely wish to see your face, shape and figure.

Note while I ask if you have a digital camera, I rarely use my messengers but at times I may tell you to get on for sessions, Note, I do not cyber so if you are merely looking to get off on cam while some one watched do not bother applying

While this is a bare basic information sheet, for those I wish to know further about I will send a more detailed questionnaire that must be filled out and sent within 24 hours.

If you are interested, I do not have time for games, please only serious replies, email me at the email below.

You may ask me any questions when you send your email

Masterful Hand
masterfulhand@gmail.com

New slave

I have recently met a very eager slave girl on a website, she has asked me to train her, while as I tell all new Masters and Mistresses before agreeing to anything always talk with the potential slave, after a few days of corresponding through emails she was more then eager for her first task.

She has shown great promise, she is quite obedient and does what she is told, I have respected her limits as any true Master would, when assigning her task, I have given her two so far and she has performed admirably.

She is but 19 years old, yet shows promise, she has been told what is expected of her, her duties, rules, possible punishments, she understands her limits will be tested yet always respected, she has but a few limits which me makes her more appealing to her Master.

Her first task was quite a simple one, she was to bound her feet in rope that she has, then was told to masturbate every ten minutes and edge, but to never cum for one hour, she understands such pleasures must be earned and shall be given sparingly by her Master, only when I think she deserves rewards shall she get them for being a good little slave girl, and she must obey and understand that a slave is at the pleasure of her Master, which so far she understands this.

Her next task is for the next 24 hours she is to write out her day in detail, what she wore, what she ate, what did she do, for how long, and she has been told to be as in depth as possible, known as a “slave journal” to those in the lifestyle, she shall be told to keep on daily after this one week or so probationary period to make sure that things work out before claiming her as my own.

She has been told to get a blogger site, which I shall link here at a later date after she has posted more of her task showing her progress from a novice of the BDSM lifestyle, to a full fledge slave girl with the knowledge that she has been given from my Teachings.

Masterful Hand
masterfulhand@gmail.com